I am involved with several couples who play cards every other weekend. We switch off as to whose house we will go. This weekend we went to an older woman's house. I love both her and her husband very much. Her husband is very sick and probably won't live much longer.
She had several snacks for us to eat while we played cards. Afterwards, I followed the women in the kitchen while the men sat on the couches. That irked me. There was no reason why the guys couldn't clean up also. But if I refused to clean, the older woman would have had less help. I don't mind, at all, helping in the kitchen but seriously, the men were doing NOTHING. Granted, the kitchen was small but obvious separation of work into such gender specific roles irritated me.
On one hand, I think that it is wrong not to help the host and hostess with the clean up. On the other hand, I think everyone should help.
How do you handle such situations? In a couple of weeks it is my family's turn to play host.