OK, not YLCF per se, just the founder's personal blog, in which she describes how much she'd like to go to a blogging conference (littlepinkhouse.bloggingmyworld.com).
"My husband said no (I didn’t really ask him—I just mentioned that John had told Ashleigh to go to one). He said sorry, but he wasn’t going to let me go off to a blogging conference.
And that was fine (really, truly). I wouldn’t have wanted to go without him anyway."
Um. OK. She doesn't say WHY he said "no," so I must speculate. If it was a totally rational reason (lack of funds, no one to help with kids while hubby works, stressful time on the homefront so abandoning ship for a few days not a good idea, etc.) that would be fine, and you'd think she'd just say that up-front.. But her explanation was simply that he wasn't going to let her go, period. Which I guess must be entirely satisfactory and sufficient, if you can twist your brain into resembling that of a complementarian, submissive helpmeet, right?
Here's the other thing: She didn't just say "Hey, there's this blogging conference that sounds really cool and I'd love to go if we could find a way! Do you think we can work it out?"
Which, absent any of the perfectly acceptable reasons to nix the idea I sketched earlier, doesn't seem like a crazy, selfish request. Bear with me here. Thanks.
She sort of hints around at the idea to feel her husband out, probably knowing he won't agree, and then blogs about the "no" in a "Oh, it's fine, REALLY - I'd never DREAM of going by myself anyway-esque" fashion.
It seems that a) she feels she can't ask outright for what she wants & b) she has a need to broadcast her husband's "authority" over her on the internet after he shoots down her implied request.
Now, I know that non-fundie couples do this too, as in a "Oh, so-and-so are going to Mexico this summer, gee that will be so nice for them! Gee, I've never been to Mexico, hint-hint- nudge-nudge" type-thing. But throw in the submissive helpmeet element, and that the husband has that last word on his wife's activities in all cases and that is how it is supposed to be.......and I guess I just find it really unsettling. Again, could be a perfectly valid reason why he said no, but "I'm not letting you do that" doesn't fall into that category for me.
The funny thing was, I got so hung up on this part of the post that the rest of whatever she wrote after didn't even register.
There's also the possibility that I have misread this entirely, so feel free to disabuse me of any notions I may have misinterpreted.